Thursday, March 31, 2011
Tips for parents about school bullying - what if your child is the bully?
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Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Quick tips for parents - How do you support your child?
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Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Anti bullying advice for parents - Six Quick Tips
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Monday, March 28, 2011
Anti-Bullying PSA: The Price of Silence
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Sunday, March 27, 2011
Casey Haynes- The Boy who fought back! ( Great Story)
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How High School Girls Bully
Added Sunday, March 27, 2011, Under: Anti-Bullying
Most studies about bullying focus on boys as aggressors but girls can be bullies too and when girls bully it can be an entirely different beast. When we think of bullying we tend to think of physical violence and outward taunting but when girls bully their tactics are often quiet and covert.
Girls Who Bully Can Be Hard to Recognize
From the outside looking in it can be hard to tell a group of girls who are bullying apart from a group of girls who are innocently standing around. Girls socialize differently than boys. As girls get older their peer interactions become less physical and more cerebral. Girls engage in verbal bonding by sharing stories, hopes, and dreams. Since girls bond differently than boys it makes sense that when they bully it would be different too.
Teachers and parents tend to talk about the obvious when they talk about bullying. Playground scuffles, name calling, stealing personal items and damaging property are commonly cited examples of bullying behavior. But when girls bully they aren’t so obvious. Girls can be quietly vicious with their victims and adults often fail to treat their behavior as bullying.
Girls and Boys Do Not Bully the Same Ways
The tactics used by girls who bully are distorted versions of some normal mechanisms of social development. According to research done by Lagerspetz, Bjorqvist and Peltonen at the University of Miami, when girls bully they use things like alienation, ostracism, deliberate and calculated random exclusions, and spreading of rumors to harass their peers.
Girls get other kids to gang up on one or more peers as a way of exerting control. Sometimes they incite other children to act out aggressively and sit back to watch the show. They form groups that pick and choose members at random and exclude others without real reason. They form alliances with other social groups in an effort to jockey for popularity and positions of power among peers. All too often the bullying tactics used by girls are brushed off as cruel but normal social interactions.
In Girls, Bullying Behaviors and Peer Relationships: The Double Edged Sword of Exclusion and Rejection, Barbara Leckie explains how bullying by girls manifests itself and how it is handled by adults. Leckie went over numerous studies dating back as far as 1980 and identified the many different ways that girls bully. She also found that adults were slower to react to the bullying tactics used by girls.
Adults Can Be Slow to React to Girls Who Bully
If there is violence or physical acting out of any sort adults are quick to intervene and when necessary will punish offenders, but when the bullying takes on a less obvious form even adults don’t seem to know what to do. When girls bully it often goes unaddressed. Since adults don't always label the tactics used by girls as bullying kids who fall victim don’t know where to turn for help.
The mindset still exists that not all kids can be friends and the social structure of the school system encourages the formation of groups and reinforces the idea of social hierarchies. This makes many adults slow to recognize things like exclusion and alienation as something sinister. These behaviors are often dismissed as an unfortunate part of the normal formation of peer groups.
While it is normal for girls and boys to form social groups and close bonds with certain people at the exclusion of others it becomes bullying when those groups make power plays over other groups or individuals. Having friends is one thing; having friends who work to make others feel that they are not good enough to be included is another. Playing the popularity game in a way that causes fear or inadequacy in others is a form of bullying and it is a common tactic used by girls.
Girls Bully in Packs
Sadly, good kids who know better go along with these types of popularity power games for fear of being singled out and cast out of the group. Since adults often treat this exclusionary behavior as mere social clashing kids who are caught in the middle are afraid to stand up to the bully. It seems easier to do nothing than it does to do the right thing.
Kids who quietly go along with a bully add to the bully's power by giving victims the illusion that the bully has peer support. The victim feels like everybody is against them, not just the bully. When adults do not address exclusionary behavior the same way they would address more traditionally forms of bullying it worsens the problem. Kids who know better feel powerless to do the right thing when adults don’t react.
Girls who bully will pick on boys as well as other girls. They act out as consistently as boys who bully and pick their targets in much the same way. While girls have been known to get violent when they bully it is much more common for them to use emotional tactics.
How Girls Bully
Girls bully by using emotional violence. They do things that make others feel alienated and alone. Some of the tactics used by girls who bully include:
* anonymous prank phone calls or harassing emails from dummy accounts
* playing jokes or tricks designed to embarrass and humiliate
* deliberate exclusion of other kids for no real reason
* whispering in front of other kids with the intent to make them feel left out
* name calling, rumor spreading and other malicious verbal interactions
* being friends one week and then turning against a peer the next week with no incident or reason for the alienation
* encouraging other kids to ignore or pick on a specific child
* inciting others to act out violently or aggressively
Boys are not the only bullies, girls bully too. Being singled out, ridiculed, excluded, or alienated is a form of bullying. Being beaten up emotionally on a daily basis does damage to the victims. It is time that the problem was addressed for what it is, a gender difference in bullying but bullying none-the-less.
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Girls Who Bully Can Be Hard to Recognize
From the outside looking in it can be hard to tell a group of girls who are bullying apart from a group of girls who are innocently standing around. Girls socialize differently than boys. As girls get older their peer interactions become less physical and more cerebral. Girls engage in verbal bonding by sharing stories, hopes, and dreams. Since girls bond differently than boys it makes sense that when they bully it would be different too.
Teachers and parents tend to talk about the obvious when they talk about bullying. Playground scuffles, name calling, stealing personal items and damaging property are commonly cited examples of bullying behavior. But when girls bully they aren’t so obvious. Girls can be quietly vicious with their victims and adults often fail to treat their behavior as bullying.
Girls and Boys Do Not Bully the Same Ways
The tactics used by girls who bully are distorted versions of some normal mechanisms of social development. According to research done by Lagerspetz, Bjorqvist and Peltonen at the University of Miami, when girls bully they use things like alienation, ostracism, deliberate and calculated random exclusions, and spreading of rumors to harass their peers.
Girls get other kids to gang up on one or more peers as a way of exerting control. Sometimes they incite other children to act out aggressively and sit back to watch the show. They form groups that pick and choose members at random and exclude others without real reason. They form alliances with other social groups in an effort to jockey for popularity and positions of power among peers. All too often the bullying tactics used by girls are brushed off as cruel but normal social interactions.
In Girls, Bullying Behaviors and Peer Relationships: The Double Edged Sword of Exclusion and Rejection, Barbara Leckie explains how bullying by girls manifests itself and how it is handled by adults. Leckie went over numerous studies dating back as far as 1980 and identified the many different ways that girls bully. She also found that adults were slower to react to the bullying tactics used by girls.
Adults Can Be Slow to React to Girls Who Bully
If there is violence or physical acting out of any sort adults are quick to intervene and when necessary will punish offenders, but when the bullying takes on a less obvious form even adults don’t seem to know what to do. When girls bully it often goes unaddressed. Since adults don't always label the tactics used by girls as bullying kids who fall victim don’t know where to turn for help.
The mindset still exists that not all kids can be friends and the social structure of the school system encourages the formation of groups and reinforces the idea of social hierarchies. This makes many adults slow to recognize things like exclusion and alienation as something sinister. These behaviors are often dismissed as an unfortunate part of the normal formation of peer groups.
While it is normal for girls and boys to form social groups and close bonds with certain people at the exclusion of others it becomes bullying when those groups make power plays over other groups or individuals. Having friends is one thing; having friends who work to make others feel that they are not good enough to be included is another. Playing the popularity game in a way that causes fear or inadequacy in others is a form of bullying and it is a common tactic used by girls.
Girls Bully in Packs
Sadly, good kids who know better go along with these types of popularity power games for fear of being singled out and cast out of the group. Since adults often treat this exclusionary behavior as mere social clashing kids who are caught in the middle are afraid to stand up to the bully. It seems easier to do nothing than it does to do the right thing.
Kids who quietly go along with a bully add to the bully's power by giving victims the illusion that the bully has peer support. The victim feels like everybody is against them, not just the bully. When adults do not address exclusionary behavior the same way they would address more traditionally forms of bullying it worsens the problem. Kids who know better feel powerless to do the right thing when adults don’t react.
Girls who bully will pick on boys as well as other girls. They act out as consistently as boys who bully and pick their targets in much the same way. While girls have been known to get violent when they bully it is much more common for them to use emotional tactics.
How Girls Bully
Girls bully by using emotional violence. They do things that make others feel alienated and alone. Some of the tactics used by girls who bully include:
* anonymous prank phone calls or harassing emails from dummy accounts
* playing jokes or tricks designed to embarrass and humiliate
* deliberate exclusion of other kids for no real reason
* whispering in front of other kids with the intent to make them feel left out
* name calling, rumor spreading and other malicious verbal interactions
* being friends one week and then turning against a peer the next week with no incident or reason for the alienation
* encouraging other kids to ignore or pick on a specific child
* inciting others to act out violently or aggressively
Boys are not the only bullies, girls bully too. Being singled out, ridiculed, excluded, or alienated is a form of bullying. Being beaten up emotionally on a daily basis does damage to the victims. It is time that the problem was addressed for what it is, a gender difference in bullying but bullying none-the-less.
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Saturday, March 26, 2011
You are Unbreakable! Video of the week!
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Friday, March 25, 2011
Hero in the Hallway!
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Thursday, March 24, 2011
Teens help craft Detroit's first anti-bullying resolution; students are hoping it becomes law
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Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Words Hurt - Bullying Commercial
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Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Be Remarkable
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Monday, March 21, 2011
Sunday, March 20, 2011
How to Stop Bullying
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Saturday, March 19, 2011
Anti-bullying video of the week: Dont Give up, Dont Give in, There is a way!!!
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Friday, March 18, 2011
Bullying Victim Nadin Khoury Gets A Surprise from The Philadelphia Eagles
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Thursday, March 17, 2011
Michael & Marisa - The Same (Anti Bullying Song)
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Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Anti-bully Music Video of the Month: Eminem - No Love
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Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Bullying: Tips for Students
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If you are being bullied...
Reach Out
Interrupt It
Make a Commitment to Change
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Reach Out
Tell an adult. Sometimes you may have to tell more than one trusted adult.Be Cool in the Moment
Ask your friends to help you. There is safety in numbers.
Practice what to say the next time you're bullied with your parents, teachers or friends.
Stay calm and confident. Don't show the bully that you're sad or mad.Change the School Community
Ignore the bully and walk away.
Remember: Fighting back can make bullying worse.
Work with others to stop bully behavior; your whole school will benefit.If you witness bullying...
Remember: A lot of kids have to cope with bullying. You are not alone. No one deserves to be bullied.
Interrupt It
Stand next to, or speak up for, the person being bullied.Get Help
Ask the bully to stop.
Comfort the person being bullied and offer friendship.
Walk away and get help.If you are the bully...
Find an adult who can intervene.
Make a Commitment to Change
Talk to an adult, like a teacher or parent, about how to get along with others.Focus on Empathy and Responsibility
Ask a friend to help you stop your bully behavior.
Apologize to the kids you have bullied.
Think about what it feels like to be bullied -- would you want to be treated that way?Change Your Behavior
Before you speak, think about whether your words will help or hurt another student.
Resist peer pressure to bully.www.getoutthebox.org
If you start to bully, walk away and find something else to do.
Remember: You don't have to like everyone around you, but you have to treat everyone with respect.
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Monday, March 14, 2011
Stand for Something
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Sunday, March 13, 2011
The Talk - Cyber Bullying
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