Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Top Tips to deal with Trolling:




Trolling is a form of baiting online which involves sending abusive and hurtful comments across all social media platforms. It is another term used for bullying as no matter how you dress it up, it incites people to make comments to people that elicit further comments such as “go away and die” or “you are so disgusting, I hate seeing you around”. The messages are meant to cause the most distress they can and no consideration is given to the victims by the people who troll online. Trolls go to great lengths in making their messages as hurtful as they can so that the recipient of the messages sent believe and are convinced that what has been said is true. The difficulty is that most of the people who troll online send the messages anonymously and therefore makes it difficult to identify who the sender is. The person on the receiving end of these comments often feels isolated and does not tell anyone that they have been receiving such distressing messages.  



Top Tips to deal with Trolling:
  • Resist the urge to respond to abusive messages; this inflames the situation and demonstrates it has upset you
  • Do NOT delete any of the messages, save, copy or paste messages to your inbox or send to an adult for safe keeping
  • Report any incidences of trolling to the moderator on the site in which the message has been sent; as an example, if it is via Twitter, or Facebook, report it detailing exactly what has been said. The providers of the social media platforms have a legal and moral duty to protect their users  
  • Tell an adult you trust, your parents, carers, teacher, youth worker or someone you trust. It does not matter who you tell, as long as you tell someone!
  • Do not suffer alone; trolling is a form of bullying and it is inexcusable
  • Inform the school as even if it is taking place outside of school, it may be from someone in school who is known to you and could impact on you at a later date
  • Report it to the police with copies of the saved messages
  • Confide in trusted friends and if the same is happening to your friends, encourage them to report it

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Watch out, cyber-bullies: Kids have new tools to fight back


 

A growing number of teenagers say they've been bullied online. But now new technology is empowering kids, parents and schools to fight back against cyber-bullies. CBS News' Naomi Choy Smith reports.




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Good friend/bad friend chart for kids

 

 

 

 

Good friend/bad friend chart for kids

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Ways That Being a Bystander Shows You Agree With a Bully.

 

 

 

 

Ways That Being a Bystander Shows You Agree With a Bully. Encourage kids to speak up for bullying targets not to be a bystander!

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Five things you can do to help avoid being a target for #bullying

 

 

 

 

Five things you can do to help avoid being a target for #bullying

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Classroom Idea: Friends/ Bullies 1st grade anchor chart



Classroom Idea: Friends/ Bullies 1st grade anchor chart

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20 Quotes to start the School Year!


 
Your words carry amazing power. So when you speak make sure you uplift someone and never put them down.


Stress Less -
Focus on the positive in your life.
Think about the good times.
Look for the opportunities in every challenge.
Smile!


Always remember, that no matter how useless you think you are, you are still someone's reason to smile

Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts your life will start to change.

Find something good within your life and give every ounce of energy you have towards it. Watch how your life changes.

The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us, but those who win battles we know nothing about.

Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy

In the end some of your biggest pains become your biggest strengths.

There's no reason to look back when you have so much to look forward to.

You are made to make a difference, so embrace every opportunity to do so.

Sometimes life will test you but remember this: When you walk up a mountain, your legs get stronger.

No matter what pain you've been through, tears will dry, broken hearts will heal, and somewhere a person who truly cares is waiting for you.

Never let the sadness of your past and the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present.

When times are difficult, remind yourself that no pain comes to you without a purpose.

We are made strong by the difficulties we face not by those we run from.

Perhaps strength doesn’t reside in never having been broken, but in the courage to grow strong in the broken places.

Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’t change.

Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it.

Never get tired of doing little things for others. Sometimes, those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts

Give but don't allow yourself to be used. Love but don't allow yourself to be abused. Listen to others but don't lose your own voice.

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Tuesday, August 26, 2014

BULLY/BUDDY LESSON CHART




BULLY/BUDDY LESSON CHART. This would be a great pre-activity to use when starting a lesson on bullying. It would help students realize what bullying all entails and maybe make them think twice about how something so "small" could actually be very hurtful to someone else. It would be a great activity to get students talking with each other and about the issue. 

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Activity for the classroom: How to Help your Child Handle a Bully




Kids cannot be expected to respond perfectly to a bully the first time, no matter how much we talk to our kids about it. What really helps is to role play bullying situations with kids. These role plays will help you kids deal with bullies. Girl bullies and boy bullies require different techniques. Whether your child is in kindergarten, grade school, a tween or teen, these role plays will help them deal with bullying situations.

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What are your thoughts? Two Girls Arrested After One Allegedly Brags On Facebook About Cyber Bullying Suicide Victim






What are your thoughts? Two Girls Arrested After One Allegedly Brags On Facebook About Cyber Bullying Suicide Victim...

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Quote of the day





Forget what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you.

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Abby's Story - A Bullying Story






This video shows just what can happen if you're a bully. Think before you speak. Think before you act. Bystanders, you have the most power, use it in the right way. 

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Monday, August 25, 2014

Quote of the day




Be thankful for the struggles you go through. They make you stronger and wiser. Don't let them break you. Let them make you.

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RECESS - Bully - The Anti Bully Song






Recess is on a mission to STOP bullying. Listen to their song "Bully" and join Recess in their fight to change the world and make a difference. Visit www.1recess.com to find more information on Recess and get them in your school or organizations for their "Friend's Don't Let Friends Bully Tour" an anti-bullying campaign

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13 Tips to Help Both Targets and Bullies...

If your child is the target of bullying, here are a few ideas:

Back to School Bullies: Tip 1
Talk with your child. Let them know that you can’t help them unless you know about the situation. Listen to their stories and feelings, while being non-judgemental and calm. Remember that there are always two sides to every story. Work with your child to develop solutions that make them feel comfortable.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 2
Gather information and document specifics from the incidents they describe: who was present (adults and children), what exactly happened, as well as when and where the incident took place. Ensure that your child knows there is a difference between tattling (telling with the intent of getting someone in trouble) and telling (telling with the intent of asking for help). Tell your child that you are proud that they feel comfortable enough to re-hash difficult and emotional situations with you.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 3
Don’t tell your child to ignore the bully or to learn how to fight.Encouraging your child to minimize their emotional reaction to the bully may reduce the frequency and severity of the incidents; however, ignoring a problem rarely ever makes it go away. And fighting fire with fire just makes a bigger fire.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 4
Don’t shrug the bullying behavior off as a normal part of childhood. Abuse of any kind must never be considered normal.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 5
Involve your child’s teacher and principal, but don’t rely on them to be the sole source of the solution. Simply telling the teacher does not necessarily mean the problem will be solved. Many teachers and school administrators are at just as much of a loss as you are with respect to how to handle the growing problem of bullying. All of the parties involved in bullying - targets, bullies, parents, teachers, school administrators and support staff - need to come together to find a solution.
OvercomeBullying.org - Back to School Bullies
John Marcotte
Back to School Bullies: Tip 6
Ask about the bullying policy at your child’s school. It should define the different types of bullying (physical, verbal, relational, sexual, and cyber-bullying), and the consequences for each. It should also recognize the difference between inappropriate behavior and bullying. Bullying is chronic, frequent behavior that has, at its core, the intention to harm and intimidate. Inappropriate behavior is exhibited by all kids at one time or another, but it is not malicious or chronic. The policy should also recognize potential “hot spots” in the school environment, such as the playground, bathrooms, and hallways where bullying could potentially occur, and then detail preventive action plans for those areas in the school.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 7
Empower your child. The younger your child, the more they will benefit from things like role playing and scripts of how to respond in certain situations. Anything from “Okay, whatever you say,” and “Thanks!” to “Knock it off,” or “Please stop now,” are appropriate responses to bullies. Just ensure that your child responds with as little emotion as possible, and with as much confidence as possible. It may take a fair amount of time to see results from this tactic, so allow your child to move at their own pace in this regard.

If your child is the bully, there is also a lot you can do to be a part of the solution:

Back to School Bullies: Tip 8
Don’t deny that there is a problem. Once again, ignoring a problem rarely makes it go away, and often exacerbates it. Your child may not be entirely to blame; but he or she is definitely part of the equation, and problems can’t be solved without all parts of the equation being satisfied.
Minimizing the importance of the issue sends a message to your child that being inconsiderate of other people’s feelings is acceptable.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 9
Talk with your child. Listen to their stories and feelings. Remember that there are always two sides to every story. Document specific aspects of the behaviour so that you have the necessary information to help you and your child to work towards a solution.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 10
Encourage and model empathy. Bullies often lack the feeling of empathy. When discussing specific incidents, ask your child to put themselves in the other child’s shoes. While watching TV or a movie with your child, openly discuss what you think the characters might be feeling in certain scenes, especially ones filled with turmoil.
We must all do everything we can to ensure that our children come and go from school knowing that they are in a safe, inclusive, fair environment.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 11
Brainstorm reparations and focus on accountability. Ask your child to help you understand what they did that caused harm to another, and why they behaved in that manner. Then, work with your child to develop meaningful ways to show he or she is sorry for what they did. Simply saying sorry is not enough; they must state what they are sorry for, and what they are going to do in the future to make amends.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 12
Reduce the number of aggressive examples in your child’s life.Violent examples in today’s society can only be blamed for our children’s poor behavior if parents let those examples be their children’s babysitters. Monitor the TV programs and movies your child watches, the video games they play, and the other children they socialize with. That’s not to say that violent examples must be completely off limits; they are reality, and your child must learn to cope with them at some point. Just be sure to talk with your child about the appropriateness of such examples, and how you feel about them. This dialogue will give your child the basis from which to develop their own opinions.
Back to School Bullies: Tip 13
Find a Peer Mentor. In addition to lacking empathy, bullies also often lack social skills. Track down someone who can be, in your absence, a regular source of support for your child. They can help your child figure out socially acceptable ways of behaving.
Bullying has a huge detrimental impact on our children’s school environment. As the principal at one Edmonton school says every morning during announcements, “Everyone has the responsibility to help, and no one has the right to hurt.” We must all do everything we can to ensure that our children come and go from school knowing that they are in a safe, inclusive, fair environment. The absence of violence, fear and worry will put our children in the position of being able to concentrate on becoming confident and wise members of our society.

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Nick Vujicic - Love Without Limits - Bully Talk





My experiences with bullies left me feeling intimidated, depressed, anxious and sick to my stomach. If you know my personal story, you'll remember that most grade school days ended with tears and on one occasion led me to a failed suicide attempt. I didn't tell my parents when I was picked on because I didn't want to upset them. I thought I could handle it myself, but I was wrong. I should have told them.
As I travel around the world talking to tens of thousands of young people, it is evident that no one is immune from being bullied. This epidemic is not unique to North America. Bullying is a global issue.

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Monday, June 2, 2014

Quote of the day


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What are your thoughts? Teen Bullied into Plastic Surgery




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Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Maya Angelou-Power Words




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Quote of the Day




When people don’t like themselves very much, they have to make up for it. The classic bully was actually a victim first
Tom Hiddleston

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