- Ignore her as often as possible. Bullies crave attention, and females aren't much different. If she bothers you, she'll expect a response, so if you decide not to give her one, she'll eventually grow bored with you.
- Tell a trusting adult. Make sure you tell them not to mention your name so you aren’t labeled a snitch. By doing so, not only will you get your problem out, but you'll also be getting it off your chest, and sharing it with someone who cares.
- Make eye contact with her. It shows confidence, that you could care less what she does. If she can sense your 'weak' or scared, she'll go after that.
- Use your words, not your fists. However, if you are being physically threatened, (with guns, knives, etc.) do whatever you can. Do NOT start a fight or a riot, it will only create tension, and an audience, which may lead to a principal or boss pulling you down to their office for a talk.
- Find her weakness before she finds yours. This is the key to making her stop. Make her feel bad about bullying and try to shut her up so that she can't bother you. In other words, say something that she can't answer. Nevertheless, make sure it's not something that she can later make a comeback from.
- Giving her assertive energy, can also help, in some cases; it doesn't need to be confronted, you already "had".
- Remember, it's only a phase and it can make you feel like it's the worst thing in the world; but you won't spend the rest of your life with her.
- If she feels the need to say "we" or "us" and you know it's only her that's bullying you. It shows that's she's a coward, and she is trying to intimidate you.
- Is it you she's only bullying? Maybe she has other victims too. Talk to them about it; see if she is doing the exact same thing to others.
- Hard kidding, making you the butt of the joke all the time, put-downs, and harsh criticism for no reason can't slide, if it's been going on for months or longer, it's a red flag. If it's a friend that's doing this, your friend is slowly wearing you down and that's indirect aggression.
- Make a confrontation direct and brief, DON'T KISS UP TO HER! That’s weakness in her eyes and DON'T provoke anything. (Your talents provoke her already)
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