Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Bullying may have long-term health consequences



Bullied children may experience chronic, systemic inflammation that persists into adulthood, while bullies may actually reap health benefits of increasing their social status through bullying, according to researchers at Duke Medicine.

"Our findings look at the biological consequences of
 bullying, and by studying a marker of inflammation, provide a potential mechanism for how this social interaction can affect later health functioning," said William E. Copeland, Ph.D., associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Duke University School of Medicine and the study's lead author.The study, conducted in collaboration with the University of Warwick, the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and Emory University, is published online in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences the week of May 12, 2014.
Earlier studies have suggested that victims of childhood bullying suffer social and emotional consequences into adulthood, including increases in anxiety and depression. Yet, bullied children also report health problems, such as pain and illness susceptibility, which may extend beyond psychological outcomes.
"Among victims of bullying, there seems to be some impact on health status in adulthood," Copeland said. "In this study, we asked whether childhood bullying can get 'under the skin' to affect physical health."
Copeland and his colleagues used data from the Great Smoky Mountains Study, a robust, population-based study that has gathered information on 1,420 individuals for more than 20 years. Individuals were randomly selected to participate in the prospective study, and therefore were not at a higher risk of mental illness or being bullied.
Participants were interviewed throughout childhood, adolescence and young adulthood, and among other topics, were asked about their experiences with bullying. The researchers also collected small blood samples to look at biological factors. Using the blood samples, the researchers measured C-reactive protein (CRP), a marker of low-grade inflammation and a risk factor for health problems including metabolic syndrome and cardiovascular disease.
"CRP levels are affected by a variety of stressors, including poor nutrition, lack of sleep and infection, but we've found that they are also related to psychosocial factors," Copeland said. "By controlling for participants' pre-existing CRP levels, even before involvement in bullying, we get a clearer understanding of how bullying could change the trajectory of CRP levels."
Three groups of participants were analyzed: victims of bullying, those who were both bullies and victims, and those who were purely bullies. Although CRP levels rose for all groups as they entered adulthood, victims of childhood bullying had much higher CRP levels as adults than the other groups. In fact, the CRP levels increased with the number of times the individuals were bullied.
Young adults who had been both bullies and victims as children had CRP levels similar to those not involved in bullying, while bullies had the lowest CRP – even lower than those uninvolved in bullying. Thus, being a bully and enhancing one's social status through this interaction may protect against increases in the inflammatory marker.
While bullying is more common and perceived as less harmful than childhood abuse or maltreatment, the findings suggest that bullying can disrupt levels of inflammation into adulthood, similar to what is seen in other forms of childhood trauma.
"Our study found that a child's role in bullying can serve as either a risk or a protective factor for low-grade inflammation," Copeland said. "Enhanced social status seems to have a biological advantage. However, there are ways children can experience social success aside from bullying others."
The researchers concluded that reducing bullying, as well as reducing inflammation among victims of bullying, could be key targets for promoting physical and emotional health and lessening the risk for diseases associated with inflammation.

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Saturday, November 9, 2013

Bullying: Tips for Students




This checklist provides suggestions for what kids can do when bullying occurs – written for students being bullied, students who witness bullying and the bullies themselves.
If you are being bullied...
Reach Out
Tell an adult. Sometimes you may have to tell more than one trusted adult.
Ask your friends to help you. There is safety in numbers.
Practice what to say the next time you're bullied with your parents, teachers or friends.
Be Cool in the Moment
Stay calm and confident. Don't show the bully that you're sad or mad.
Ignore the bully and walk away.
Remember: Fighting back can make bullying worse.
Change the School Community
Work with others to stop bully behavior; your whole school will benefit.
Remember: A lot of kids have to cope with bullying. You are not alone. No one deserves to be bullied.
If you witness bullying...
Interrupt It
Stand next to, or speak up for, the person being bullied.
Ask the bully to stop.
Comfort the person being bullied and offer friendship.
Get Help
Walk away and get help.
Find an adult who can intervene.
If you are the bully...
Make a Commitment to Change
Talk to an adult, like a teacher or parent, about how to get along with others.
Ask a friend to help you stop your bully behavior.
Apologize to the kids you have bullied.
Focus on Empathy and Responsibility
Think about what it feels like to be bullied -- would you want to be treated that way?
Before you speak, think about whether your words will help or hurt another student.
Change Your Behavior
Resist peer pressure to bully.
If you start to bully, walk away and find something else to do.
Remember: You don't have to like everyone around you, but you have to treat everyone with respect.

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Friday, February 24, 2012

Bullying




Tempo InDepth explores the possible solutions to "bullying." The U.S. Department of Justice estimates every seven minutes a child is bullied at school and schools have gotten serious about putting an end to it.
We'll take you to an Easton middle school where everyone is getting involved to make a change and we'll meet a New Jersey boy who's using education to combat "bullying" for not just himself but others too.


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Demi Lovato on Bullying

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Saturday, February 11, 2012

Inside Out - Extended Version


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Thursday, January 19, 2012

Sticks and Stones






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Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Bullying Behavior vs Respectful Behavior

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Friday, November 25, 2011

You Can Stop Bullying


You Can Stop Bullying from The Pittsburgh Foundation on Vimeo.


You Can Stop Bullying


Bullying is a huge problem for kids and teenagers today. You see it on the bus, in the halls at school and especially online. Today we have more access to new media like smartphones, YouTube and Facebook than ever before which means that for most kids cyberbullying has replaced fighting in the playground as the most common and often the most hurtful kind of bullying.

But the good news is YOU have the power to stop bullying !!

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Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Report a Bully

The Get Out The Box Youth Organization  is committed to the safe and supportive development of all students. This anonymous report will be sent to school administrators to investigate allegations of bullying in  schools. Due to the anonymous nature of the report - cannot guarantee that any/all of the information contained herein can be verified during investigation. For this reason, we ask you be as specific and as comprehensive as possible in your responses. 




Click Here To Report an Incident ---> Photobucket







To add your school to the website click here ---> http://www.reportabully.com/

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Friday, October 28, 2011

Bullying prevention: A proactive curriculum

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Monday, October 24, 2011

Talent Show - Cyberbullying Prevention Commercial

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Thursday, October 13, 2011

A Quick List to What is Bullying and Harassment?

Bullying is the conscious desire to hurt, exclude, or put some one else down to make you feel better. Bullying can be in looks, actions or words. Bullying is not a joke. It is unacceptable. Each student has the right to feel safe, happy, and wanted.
 
BULLYING COULD INCLUDE:
   • Being ignored constantly.
   • Being excluded from the group.
   • Having rumors spread about you.
   • Being made fun of.

YOU ARE HELPING A BULLY BY: 
 Providing an audience.
  • Not supporting someone who is being bullied.
  • Passing on harassing notes.
  • Passing on rumors.
  • Laughing at a bully's actions.

ARE YOU BEING BULLIED OR HARASSED?
WHAT CAN YOU DO? POSITIVE STRATEGIES TO HELP COUNTER BULLYING... 

  • Be assertive. Explain to the bully how you feel.
  • Discuss it with friends. Get help from them.
  • Consider your behavior.
  • Avoid situations which lead to bullying.
  • Ignore it. Don't let the bully know that you are upset.
  • Go to peer mediation.
  • Go to the school Counselor.
  • Talk to a trusted person.
  • Tell your Co-ordinator/Counselor.
  • Talk to your parents.
  • Remember--It's OK to let someone know what's happening!!!

VISIT BULLYING CANADA WEBSITE -- The website has been created by youth for youth from across the Country (Canada)! They are all fully non - paid volunteers and donate many hours a week to the website.
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WHY DON'T YOUNG PEOPLE TELL ADULTS? (About being bullied?) 
1. They are ashamed of being bullied
2. They are afraid of retaliation
3. They don't think anyone CAN help them
4. They don't think anyone WILL help them
5. They've bought into the lie that bullying is a necessary part of growing up
6. Thy might believe that adults are part of the lie--they bully too
7. They have learned that "ratting" on a peer is bad, not cool
  • Students typically feel that adult intervention is infrequent and ineffective and that telling adults will only bring more harassment from bullies.
  • Students are also reluctant to tell teachers or school staff as many adults view bullying as a harmless rite of passage that is best ignored-- unless verbal and psychological intimidation crosses the line into physical assault or theft.
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 HERE'S HOW THE SCHOOL CAN HELP ... 
  • Provide a reporting method.
  • Provide counseling.
  • Give advice on how to handle the situation.
  • Arrange peer mediation.
  • Keep confidentiality if requested.
  • Listen sympathetically and carefully and take your problem seriously.
  • Support you.
  • Investigate all incidents.
  • Bring both the victim and the bully together for conflict resolution. 


ALL BULLYING AND HARASSMENT WILL BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY

The social context and supervision at school has been shown to play a MAJOR PART in the frequency and severity of bullying problems. While teachers and administrators do not have control over individual and family factors which produce children who are inclined to bully, bullying problems can be greatly reduced in severity by appropriate supervision, intervention and climate in a school. 
 • Supervision of children has been found to be of prime importance. Just as low levels of supervision in the home are associated with the development of bully problems in individual children, so are low levels of supervision at school, particularly on the PLAYGROUND, SCHOOLYARD, and in the HALLWAYS
• The social climate in the school needs to be one where there is WARMTH AND ACCEPTANCE OF ALL STUDENTS, and one where there are high standards for student and teacher behavior toward one another. TEACHER ATTITUDES toward aggression, and skills with supervision and intervention, partly determine how teachers will react to bullying situations. Curricula, administrative policies, and support are also very important.
FOUR EASY WAY TO DEAL WITH BULLIES IN THE CLASSROOM OR PROGRAM... 
• OBSERVE: Quietly watch students as they interact during free time.
• ASK: An anonymous survey can reveal when and where bullying occurs.
• EDUCATE: Teach students what bullying is and the damage it can cause.
• ENFORCE: Hold bullies accountable for their actions with fair consequences

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 If your school has anti-bullying activities-join them and take part. If they don't--start some of your own. Some schools and programs have taken the following measures to help youth:
    Unite with other communities  with PACER...It takes a community to prevent bullying of children. Annual National Bullying Prevention Awareness Week, each October, encourages communities nationwide to work together to increase awareness of the prevalence and impact of bullying on all children.
    Families, students, schools, organizations and other groups can unite with PACER to prevent bullying in several ways. Activities and materials such as contests, toolkits, and online bullying prevention training are available on to help reduce bullying in schools, recreational programs, and community organizations. PACER has designed free web sites, downloadable activities and helpful information for teachers, administrators, parents and community organization to engage and educate children about bullying prevention in grades K- 5.
    There are resources designed for teens, teachers, administrators, and parents and other professionals to engage, empower and educate students, schools and communities about bullying prevention for middle and high school students.
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GOOD IDEAS SOME SCHOOLS HAVE STARTED:
1. BULLY BOXES...
Kids can put notes in the box if they are too worried to tell someone. If your school has boxes like these use them wisely. Advise the kids to always make sure that anything they write about is the truth.

2. SET UP A BUDDY-SYSTEM... Older students can sometimes volunteer to help new or younger students coming into the school or your program by getting to know them.
3. SPECIALS CAMPAIGNS such as a "no-bullying day" can be a big help.
4. COUNSELING is a good way of talking to someone.
Can you have someone come in and talk about Kids who are being bullied, or who are bullying others?
Some schools have set up PEER COUNSELING where kids volunteer to learn how to help other kids.
 

5. MEDIATION
Some schools and programs have introduced mediation where two people who disagree about something agree that a third person, either an adult of another student, HELPS to find a solution to a problem. This can be helpful in many situations, but not in all cases of bullying...
A bully may refuse to take part because they have no interest in ending the bullying. A victim may feel that a negotiated solution is not fair when it is the other person who is completely in the wrong.

6. Taking part in PLAYS AND OTHER DRAMA ACTIVITES can help people to understand what it feels like to be bullied and to think about what they can do to stop it. This is something that SAC programs can facilitate.
7. PEER SUPPORT where older students volunteer to discuss things such as bullying, friendship, or drugs with groups of younger students.

POSSIBLE CONSEQUENCES FOR BULLIES...   • Counseling.
  • Confronting the Bully with the victim.
  • Have the bully listen to the victim's hurt.
  • Initiate peer mediation with the victim .
  • Contact parents/guardians.
  • Insist on and monitor a behavior contract.
  • Take away privileges.
  • Suspend Bully from school.
  • Ask Bully to leave the school.
  • Take legal action.
If you are bullied or harassed you CAN do something about it!
8. PRACTICE... Tip From Barb Shelby There are several good ideas in this category; many of them will give you information and activities to help derail Bullying. When you come right down to it (After you read and get ideas for what to do) rather than spending a lot of time discussing problems, have children actually PRACTICE WHAT TO DO to prevent or stop those problems.
THIS MEANS...teach children skills and give them the words and tools to handle conflicts, bullying and challenges. Have children practice. Practice with their voices and with their bodies and non-verbal communication. Coach them to experience success.
As far as challenges in your program? Don't allow it. Build a strong "Program Community" where the kids connect and feel good about themselves and their group. Some of the posts in the "Connecting & Feeling Good Category" may help with this.

9.  To initiate a discussion with chidren, USE MESSAGE BOOKS as learning tools! Stories are a great way for children to learn what other children are doing in similar situations.
There are "Bully Theme and  Message Book suggestions" for children  posted on this site. There is also a list for adults with Anti-Bully and Conflict Resolution Themes.
10. In sharing  bullying prevention strategies in School Age Notes, Nancy Mullin proposed providing activities that promote self-confidence, build self-control and resilience, and foster community connections among children...
• Bullied children benefit from participating in a wide range of activities that help them develop common interests with peers, hone friendship-making skills, and build relationships.
Children who tend to be easily left out because they lack social graces or have difficulty reading social signals need guidance to practice pleasant ways of entering play, making conversation, and "understanding" the nuances of give-and-take relationships.
• Form friendship circles to provide isolated youth with social supports. Children who tend to bully others benefit from opportunities to practice self-control, perspective taking, prosocial behavior, and positive ways to engage their peers. Offering cooperative alternatives to competitive games can also help reduce aggression."

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Tuesday, September 27, 2011

UVA Today: Bullying in School

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Sunday, September 25, 2011

Prevent Bullying: Quick tips for parents

Bullying is when a person tries to hurt someone on purpose, either physically or emotionally. Bullying usually happens over and over again.
There are different types of bullying, which include behaviors like:
  • Hitting or pushing
  • Name-calling
  • Spreading rumors
Bullying can be done in person, on the Internet, or with cell phones. Talk with your child about bullying before you see signs of a problem.

Tell your child why you are concerned about bullying.

  • “It’s hard to know what to do if someone is picking on you. If you ever have a problem, we can figure out what to do together.”
  • “In our family, we believe that everyone deserves respect. When you say mean things, don’t let other children play with you, or push and hit others, that’s not being respectful.”

Play the “what if” game with your child.

“What would you do if:
  • ...you saw someone getting picked on?”
  • ...someone was spreading mean rumors about you?”
  • ...you hurt someone’s feelings?”

Look for signs of bullying.

Talk with your child about what’s going on at school. Your child might be being bullied if he or she:
  • Doesn’t want to go to school
  • Has cuts or bruises
  • Is acting unhappy or depressed
  • Complains of headaches or stomachaches
Your child might bully other children if he or she:
  • Enjoys teasing other kids
  • Has a hard time controlling anger
  • Is very rough or aggressive

Learn more about bullying.

Talk to other parents and your child’s school to find out how they handle bullying.
  • Ask about the school’s policies on bullying.
  • Talk to your child’s teacher or school counselor if your think your child is involved in bullying.
For more information about preventing bullying, visit:

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Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Bullying: Tips for Students

This checklist provides suggestions for what kids can do when bullying occurs – written for students being bullied, students who witness bullying and the bullies themselves.

If you are being bullied...
Reach Out

Tell an adult. Sometimes you may have to tell more than one trusted adult.
Ask your friends to help you. There is safety in numbers.
Practice what to say the next time you're bullied with your parents, teachers or friends.
Be Cool in the Moment

Stay calm and confident. Don't show the bully that you're sad or mad.
Ignore the bully and walk away.
Remember: Fighting back can make bullying worse.
Change the School Community

Work with others to stop bully behavior; your whole school will benefit.
Remember: A lot of kids have to cope with bullying. You are not alone. No one deserves to be bullied.
If you witness bullying...
Interrupt It

Stand next to, or speak up for, the person being bullied.
Ask the bully to stop.
Comfort the person being bullied and offer friendship.
Get Help

Walk away and get help.
Find an adult who can intervene.
If you are the bully...
Make a Commitment to Change

Talk to an adult, like a teacher or parent, about how to get along with others.
Ask a friend to help you stop your bully behavior.
Apologize to the kids you have bullied.
Focus on Empathy and Responsibility

Think about what it feels like to be bullied -- would you want to be treated that way?
Before you speak, think about whether your words will help or hurt another student.
Change Your Behavior

Resist peer pressure to bully.
If you start to bully, walk away and find something else to do.
Remember: You don't have to like everyone around you, but you have to treat everyone with respect

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Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Bullying, Dr. William Winter, Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

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Saturday, July 16, 2011

How to Avoid School Fights

1.
Identify common altercation triggers. According to a Harvard-MetLife survey, you are more likely to be involved in a physical altercation as a student when you have anger issues, are challenged or are involved in negative social issues such as gossip. These are all hot-button issues that you should avoid participating in to reduce your chances of a fight at school. Being bullied or bullying others, for instance, increases the chance that a situation will turn violent.




  • 2
    Weigh your options before fighting. Taking time to think about what you can do to avoid a fight will help give you and all parties involved time to calm down and think more logically. Become aware of school programs for conflict resolution. Available are many mediating programs that allow a neutral party to oversee a meeting between you and other parties. Mediators can be other trained students or adults who can help you resolve conflict.








  • 3
    Avoid making a current situation worse. Taunting, bullying, gossiping or challenging the other student can cause a situation to quickly balloon out of control. Try to avoid a person you may be at odds with until you have a plan on how you are going to deal with the situation. This may mean being driven to school instead of riding the bus, changing your schedule or even changing your route to classes. Actions such as putting an opposing student on the spot in front of others can make things worse.








  • 4
    Involve an adult to help resolve conflict. Most students have a hard time going to adults for help because they may be regarded by peers as a snitch or receive other negative reaction. As an adult, being there for a student is highly important in avoiding school fights. As a student, go to an adult you can trust and feel comfortable with when soliciting help. This can help diffuse a situation before it becomes violent as well as help you avoid the trip to the office after a fight has already occurred.








  • 5
    Know when to walk away. It can be embarrassing to walk away when you are confronted by someone who wants to fight you, but thinking about what is at stake may help you to have a cool head. Fights can end in suspension, detention, hospitalization or even death. Using humor to diffuse a situation or talking with disagreeing parties in private can help remove some of the hype that a crowd can bring.









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    Sunday, July 10, 2011

    School Bullying: What You Haven’t Heard By Rosalind Wiseman

    During the recent White House Bullying Summit, the President challenged the people who work in bullying prevention to look at their current work and see where we could improve. His request came at a time when I’d actually been thinking about the same thing. Why? Because about a month ago I was asked to review a commonly used bullying prevention guideline often given to parents and children.  As I read it, I realized that I had never taken the time to read these guidelines and I should have because they weren’t as good as they need to be.

    Among the advice I thought was most counterproductive?
    “Ignore the bully.”  By the time a child reaches out to an adult, the vast majority of kids have been dealing with the bullying and trying to ignore it for a long time. The only thing that happens when you tell a kid to ignore the bully, is that they no longer think you care or are capable of helping them.
    “Explain to your child that bullies are weak and insecure.”  Who cares?  Even if that were true, the bullies themselves don’t believe it, and that fact doesn’t help the target respond effectively to the problem.
    “To avoid being bullied develop friendships and remember there is safety in numbers.”  This is an example of a tip that is  simply not reflective of the reality of people’s lives. Sometimes bullies are your friends and very rarely do bullying prevention tips acknowledge this fact or what to do about it. Equally unhelpful and inadequate is “safety in numbers” because you can’t depend on that being the case.  In truth there’s sometimes danger in numbers because people are often encouraged by the group to fight or at the least not back down from a situation.

    This information is regularly given out at schools all over the country and specifically when people are in great distress. In such a situation, advice has to be good.  As educators on this issue, we owe it to the families we work with to give them our best.  We have to look at our standard protocols and advice and ask ourselves a very simple question: Do we give people effective information?

    So I’ve done a little revising to these tips. I don’t have all the answers and it’s likely I overlooked something so I encourage you to make suggestions to what you see here. I will start off here with guidelines for the target. I’ll follow later with guidelines for the by-stander and the bully. I look forward to seeing what you think.

    If you are being bullied:
    Many kids who are bullied feel helpless. Sometimes, they think the only thing they can do is hope the problem will go away. But there are things you can do to get some control in the situation and it starts with developing a strategy and a support system.
    The moment it’s happening:
    • Breathe. Observe who is around. Breathe again.
    • Ask yourself what the bully is doing that you want stopped and what you want them to do instead.
    • If you can, find the courage to say those feelings. For example, “Stop pushing me into the lockers, I want to walk down the hallway in peace. I know you can do whatever you want, but I want you to stop.” Or, “Stop sending texts to everyone in the grade that no one should talk to me.”
    • If you can walk away, think about walking towards safety not away from the bully. For example, walk towards a classroom where you can see a teacher you trust. If you are in a park, walk towards a group of adults or a coach.

    • Don’t retaliate or threaten to retaliate.  This often leads to an escalation of the bullying.
    If you are being bullied online:

    Any time someone is bullied through social networking, a cell phone, or any type of social media, it can be really hard not to want to defend yourself by retaliating or finding out why this person is attacking you.  Sleeping with your phone in your bedroom is never a good idea, but it’s even worse when you’re bullied online because it’s too tempting to stay up all night trying to “fix” the situation—which isn’t possible anyway.  Same thing goes with a computer.  Sleep is hard anyway when you know people are saying mean things about you, but it’s impossible if you’re checking Facebook, Twitter, and your texts all night.
    After the bullying has occurred:
    Remember that reporting a bully is not snitching.  People snitch when all they want to do is get the person in trouble.  People report when they have a problem that is too big for them to solve on their own.  People who report bullying are doing the right thing.  And the reality is adults can’t address the problem if they don’t know about it.
    Report the bullying to an ally:  An ally is an adult that you trust to help you think through your problems.  An ally can be a parent or guardian, a teacher or counselor.  Avoid describing the bullying in generalities like, “He is being mean.”  Be specific about the bullying behavior, where you are when it occurs, and what you need to feel safe.
    If you are scared to go to school, show up for practice, or any other activity, tell your ally or the adult who is in charge.  It is not your fault that you are being bullied, and you have the right to be in school and participate in after-school activities, just like everyone else.

    What do you do if the bully is a friend?
    It’s always important to have strong friendships that you can depend on, but sometimes the bully can be a friend.  If that happens ask yourself the following questions about your friendship.
    • What are the three most important things I need in a friendship? (Most people say, trust, respect, and honesty)
    • Are my friends treating me according to what I need in a friendship?
    • If my friends aren’t treating me according to my standards, why am I in this friendship? Is it worth it?
    • If my friends were nice to me tomorrow, do I believe the bullying will stop or am I hoping for the best and putting all the power in their hands?
    If you’re the adult who is helping the child or teen think through these questions, it’s ok for them to think about their answers. They need to come up with the answers for themselves so they can internalize the realization that the cost is too high to maintain these relationships.

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    Friday, June 17, 2011

    No one can make you feel inferior...

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    Tuesday, May 24, 2011

    Stay Strong!

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